Cliff Heegel Ph.D.

If partners are committed to making a relationship work, this video can help a lot! Buy it, watch it together, start using the skills- it works if you work it, but it won’t work if you don’t work it. It is a lot cheaper ($20 for the DVD) than marriage counseling, and thus it is infinitely […]

Managing Your Narcissism Preface to any narcissists reading this: By recommending that you read this I am not intending to imply that you are ignorant or deficient in some critical manner. There’s a good chance that you already know a lot about the topics I mention here. However, at a basic level, narcissism is a […]

The Best and Worst ways to talk about relationship conflict. From best to worst, here’s my list: 1. Face-to-face in real life 2. Video call 3. Voice-only call 4. Email 5. Text or chat. I will write more about why in a subsequent post. Do you disagree? Agree? Let’s talk about it.

If you can learn new communication skills and you are willing to read, you can likely do a lot on your own to improve your relationship without hiring a therapist. It usually works better if you and your partner are willing to work together, but you can usually change things for the better even if […]

How can we better adapt to life’s changes? Unpleasant stuff happens to us all eventually. Illness, death, disappointment, betrayal, disaster, fear, and on and on. Such is the stuff that our human lives are periodically made of. Some of us can seemingly bounce back from anything. Others of us get crushed by something that looks minor […]