Tag Archives: Focus

Behavior change is difficult

Your mind works like this. It is really hard, at times, to learn new ways of doing something you’ve done for a long time. Behavior change is difficult. It requires focus, persistence, and patience. Watch the short video- it’s a cool way to illustrate the point.    

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Freedom happens now, not later

Hey- I wrote this 11 years ago. I found it on a hard drive while I was looking for another file. It is a bit simplistic but it has some ideas that are quite powerful if you actually follow up on them. ~~ Cliff When I think about my work as a psychotherapist and counselor, […]

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All affect is interior

All affect is interior

Here’s a little passage from Inner Gold, a book Arnie Kotler put together from some lectures by Robert A. Johnson. Arnie is a friend and a former teacher of mine. Robert A. Johnson is a psychoanalyst. I am going to quote the entire passage first so you can read it as one piece and get […]

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Cultivating the relationship you want

I was browsing some old files and came across this. It was a handout I used at my office about 9 years ago. I like it, so here it is for you. Fundamentals of relationships. A relationship is like a garden. A garden must be cultivated. Reading books about gardening and talking about gardening can […]

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