Tag Archives: Focus
All affect is interior

All affect is interior

Here’s a little passage from Inner Gold, a book Arnie Kotler put together from some lectures by Robert A. Johnson. Arnie is a friend and a former teacher of mine. Robert A. Johnson is a psychoanalyst. I am going to quote the entire passage first so you can read it as one piece and get [...]

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Cultivating the relationship you want

I was browsing some old files and came across this. It was a handout I used at my office about 9 years ago. I like it, so here it is for you. Fundamentals of relationships. A relationship is like a garden. A garden must be cultivated. Reading books about gardening and talking about gardening can [...]

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OBEAR – a handy little tool

I got this from Russ Harris, author of The Happiness Trap. “OBEAR” is a handy process to remember in a time of emotional distress. If you are starting to get mentally or emotionally swept away, do this: 1. OBSERVE.Bring awareness to the feelings in your body. 2. BREATHE. Take a few deep breaths. Breathe into and [...]

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MINDFULNESS PRACTICE: WHY BOTHER?

Hi- I did not write this, but I wanted it to be available for my clients on my website, so here it is.  I edited the language in it slightly to better fit the needs of my psychotherapy practice. The original is published here. ~~Cliff Mindfulness practice is not easy. It takes time and it [...]

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