Cliff Heegel Ph.D.

I was browsing some old files and came across this. It was a handout I used at my office about 9 years ago. I like it, so here it is for you.
Fundamentals of relationships.
A relationship is like a garden. A garden must be cultivated. Reading books about gardening and talking about gardening can be fun [...]

I got this from Russ Harris, author of The Happiness Trap.
“OBEAR” is a handy process to remember in a time of emotional distress.
If you are starting to get mentally or emotionally swept away, do this:
1. OBSERVE.Bring awareness to the feelings in your body.
2. BREATHE. Take a few deep breaths. Breathe into and around them.
3. EXPAND. Make [...]

Hi- I did not write this, but I wanted it to be available for my clients on my website, so here it is.  I edited the language in it slightly to better fit the needs of my psychotherapy practice. The original is published here. ~~Cliff
Mindfulness practice is not easy. It takes time and it takes [...]

For some reason the past couple of weeks I have been spending a lot of time on values work. I thought I should post this to make it easy to find.Values answer questions about your ideals like:

What sort of qualities do you want to cultivate as a person?
What do you want your life to stand for?
How do you want to be in your relationships with friends?
What role do you want to play in your community? In your culture?
Deep down inside, what is important to you?