Cliff Heegel Ph.D.

Are there really secrets to creating great relationships? Sort of, but not really. Nope. Creating great relationships is not a secret proprietary process that requires you to have a genius IQ or that you can only acquire by spending a zillion dollars.  Effective relationship knowledge is free, accessible,  and can be found all over the internet in many forms. But, […]

The human mind is awesome. Humans can create wonderful, glorious things. We have the ability to think abstractly and intuitively- we can imagine things and possibilities far beyond what is here at the moment. Language, our verbal world, gives us the means to communicate, contemplate, compare, evaluate—all the stuff you need to do to write […]

My clients are sometimes unsure about exactly what sort of things will happen in psychotherapy and precisely how long it will take. I honestly cannot answer that question for you quickly. We will have to invest some time together because one size of psychotherapy does not fit all. However, here’s The Big Picture about what […]

Our unconscious automatic reactions make us miserable. What’s wrong when you’ve tried and you just don’t seem to change? Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) sees psychological flexibility as central to living a mentally and emotionally healthy life. Managing the moment you are actually living in right this second requires you to be psychologically nimble and adaptive. […]

Subtitled: An uncertain mind sometimes deals with Reality better than a mind that is certain “It ain’t what we don’t know that gives us trouble, it’s what we know for sure that just ain’t so” ~Will Rogers I love that Will Rogers quote. It captures, in a humorous way, the essence of the human predicament. […]