Tag Archives: Relationships

5 Secrets of Happy Couples

Are there really secrets to creating great relationships? Sort of, but not really. Nope. Creating great relationships is not a secret proprietary process that requires you to have a genius IQ or that you can only acquire by spending a zillion dollars.  Effective relationship knowledge is free, accessible,  and can be found all over the internet in many forms. But, […]

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Here’s the science behind happy relationships- When/if all partners are committed to the project.

If partners are committed to making a relationship work, this video can help a lot! Buy it, watch it together, start using the skills- it works if you work it, but it won’t work if you don’t work it. It is a lot cheaper ($20 for the DVD) than marriage counseling, and thus it is infinitely […]

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Peace of Mind and the Zeigarnik Effect

A lot of what I do in psychotherapy involves helping people deal with unpleasant, disturbing, recurrent thoughts about events in the past that did not end well or that have unanswered questions. Relationship endings, job failures, bad choices, serious accidents, losses, etc. Most of the thoughts are about normal but unfortunate human events. When thoughts about […]

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Want an awesome relationship? Be generous and kind to your partner

Want an awesome relationship? Be generous and kind to your partner, especially if you are at having a difficult time with one another. http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/

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The Best and Worst ways to talk about relationship conflict

The Best and Worst ways to talk about relationship conflict. From best to worst, here’s my list: 1. Face-to-face in real life 2. Video call 3. Voice-only call 4. Email 5. Text or chat. I will write more about why in a subsequent post. Do you disagree? Agree? Let’s talk about it.

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