Tag Archives: Relationships

Here’s the science behind happy relationships- When/if all partners are committed to the project.

If partners are committed to making a relationship work, this video can help a lot! Buy it, watch it together, start using the skills- it works if you work it, but it won’t work if you don’t work it. It is a lot cheaper ($20 for the DVD) than marriage counseling, and thus it is infinitely […]

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Peace of Mind and the Zeigarnik Effect

A lot of what I do in psychotherapy involves helping people deal with unpleasant, disturbing, recurrent thoughts about events in the past that did not end well or that have unanswered questions. Relationship endings, job failures, bad choices, serious accidents, losses, etc. Most of the thoughts are about normal but unfortunate human events. When thoughts about […]

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Want an awesome relationship? Be generous and kind to your partner

Want an awesome relationship? Be generous and kind to your partner, especially if you are at having a difficult time with one another. http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/

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The Best and Worst ways to talk about relationship conflict

The Best and Worst ways to talk about relationship conflict. From best to worst, here’s my list: 1. Face-to-face in real life 2. Video call 3. Voice-only call 4. Email 5. Text or chat. I will write more about why in a subsequent post. Do you disagree? Agree? Let’s talk about it.

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Do It Yourself Relationship Improvement

If you can learn new communication skills and you are willing to read, you can likely do a lot on your own to improve your relationship without hiring a therapist. It usually works better if you and your partner are willing to work together, but you can usually change things for the better even if […]

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