Cliff Heegel Ph.D.

Managing Your Narcissism Preface to any narcissists reading this: By recommending that you read this I am not intending to imply that you are ignorant or deficient in some critical manner. There’s a good chance that you already know a lot about the topics I mention here. However, at a basic level, narcissism is a […]

The human mind is awesome. Humans can create wonderful, glorious things. We have the ability to think abstractly and intuitively- we can imagine things and possibilities far beyond what is here at the moment. Language, our verbal world, gives us the means to communicate, contemplate, compare, evaluate—all the stuff you need to do to write […]

Test how self-compassionate you are. This is a real test that is used for psychological research, by the way. Let me know how you scored. Copy your scores at the end of the test. Post them here as a comment if you are comfortable with that or email/message me with your scores. Here’s the test […]

This is a very short video called “Welcome Your Pain.” Give it a try and let me know your experience. Does welcoming your pain sound crazy to you? Well, here’s the deal: in the world of the mind, that which we resist, persists. When we try to deny or try to fight against our pain, […]

I do a lot of counseling with members of Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon, Narcotics Anonymous, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous and other 12-step fellowships who talk in terms of addiction, recovery, and sobriety.  I often refer to the term ’emotional sobriety’ in psychotherapy. Abstinence from alcohol, drugs, and addictive behavior helps a lot but it is not enough. For deep […]